Single, Not DEAD

Why does society act like a woman’s life is over if she reaches her thirties without the perfect marriage, children, house, and career?

In this episode, I talk about how brown society treats marriage like the ultimate achievement and being single like a personal failure. I also share what it feels like to change direction, explore new careers, rebuild your identity, and realize that one chapter ending does not mean your entire life is over.

You are still allowed to fall in love, build a career, start over, change your mind, and create a life that actually feels like yours. You are single, not dead.

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Marriage As The “Finish Line”

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What's poppin' you guys? It's your girl Jothi K, and this is Jothi K uncut. Brown society acts like marriage is the finish line for women. Like get married, become somebody's wife, have children, buy the house, and congratulations! You made it! You did it! Woo! Well, I tried it. I did some stuff. I wore some stuff. I became somebody somebody. And I did everything what people told me I was supposed to do. And it didn't complete me. It did not guarantee loyalty, happiness, respect, and definitely did not make me feel safe at all. And now I'm in my mid-30s and I'm single. And people act like my fucking life is over because I had a failed relationship. Baby, I'm in my 30s, single. I'm not fucking dead. Okay, I'm still alive. My life isn't over. Everything's okay. Everything works fine. We're good over here. There's so many rules on women and like so many freaking expectations. Like before 30, you need to establish a career. Should have been graduated from college at the four-year thing. And now that you're graduated, you gotta get married. Now that you get married, what the hell? You're eggs. Time is running out. We need to have children. We need grandkids. We need cousins. Oh, you need a place to stay. You have to buy a home now. Buy a home. Get yourself in a mortgage. Now oh, now you gotta stay young and attractive. You can't just let yourself go because motihoe, bateli hogi, kandini, jade kania. And you can never change their minds. And it's like men are allowed to become successful later because you know he was being a boy. He was growing up, he was figuring it out. You know, he was having fun. Mundaya, he's a boy. It's okay. He was just figuring it out. He's been through a lot. He's spoiled. But women are treated like they're expiring, like we're fucking milk. We only have a little bit of time, you know? A man turns 35 and people say he's finally ready to settle down. Fanakadli. A woman turns 35 and people start asking, what went wrong? What is wrong with her? Kihua, what's what's there's something must be up with her, right? And at Brown Society, the deadline is like louder than marriage. It's not treated like one part of your life, it's treated like proof that your entire life worked out. Oh my god, she has a house, she has a kid, she's she just looks so happy. Meanwhile, she's fucking getting cheated on. Her man's can't stand her. She can't stand his man, but a picture perfect to everybody else because on paper, it looks like you do you did great. You did everything on paper. Nobody cares if you're fucking suffering. No one gives a shit. It's okay if he's cheating on you. Men are men cheat. Oh, it's okay if he doesn't include you in his plans. He he has fun with his boys, but you stay home with the kids. You take those cute pictures and the matching pajamas while you guys sleep in separate beds and cuss each other out because auntie and uncle, sorry, because mom and dad, they got the kids. They got the they got the nephews and nieces, and they could be like, huntie, the marriage happened. Everything is good, everything worked out. You were chosen, somebody chose you. It's okay if if your relationship's not healthy and he's a piece of shit and not a good husband, maybe barely a great father, but you got chosen. That's all that really matters. Don't worry. Your opinions and feelings, those don't really matter, dude. You gotta you gotta keep up with the with the standards for a woman. A woman can build a fucking career, support her family, survive fucking trauma, apocalypse, travel the world, create an entire life for herself, and be a badass bitch. But if she's not married, everyone's gonna still look at her like she missed the grand prize. A man. Oh my god, she wasn't chosen. And then don't let me start with the guilt trip. The grandmas, the grandpas, the parents. Before we die, we need to see you married. So you don't want to see me happy. You just care about marriage. That's all you fucking care about. It's like people love celebrating weddings and being a part of it and spending your money and traveling and looking pretty and posting the pictures and going viral now, being doing the fucking shitty ass dances and all that. But no one really sees what's happening inside the relationship or the marriage. Everybody just wants to see the glitz and glamour. Everybody wants to be a part of something. And people care more about whether you stayed married than whether you were happy while you were married. Like, they don't give a shit about that. They don't care if you were like happy or not. Like, oh, you didn't stay married? You know, you should have you should have tried harder. It the Hyundai marriages, you know, it happens. Really? Does he does he do does every marriage require getting beat beaten up? Does it does it get, you know, are you supposed to get degraded? Are you not supposed to go months and months without sleeping with each other or having sex? Are you supposed to despise the person that you're around? In the like, are your parent kids supposed to be like unhappy seeing their parents fighting all the time all because you want to say that we stayed together? That's wild to me. Like, don't get it twisted. I believed in marriage. I really did. Like, I met my person. I thought I met my person, sorry. It seemed like a fairy tale. He was so kind and loving and in the beginning faithful and sold me the dream. I genuinely try to make it work. And I was just like, I don't really want to look any further. I don't, I just want to water my grass. I don't want to look for the grass is greener, right? I don't want to look somewhere else. I've already dated the rich guy, I've dated the tech guy, I've dated the rapper, all that. And I'm I now have a normal guy that just loves me. You know, the stuff that I saw in movies, the stuff that I believe, and society's trying to make me believe. And I'm like, oh, I'm in my 30s, he's in his 30s, maybe we should just fucking do it. We should just fucking be lifers. But when I decided that this is gonna be my life partner, it didn't make me feel lover secure because after a year or so it just went downhill, to be honest. And my mom would tell me things. I think I've said this in a podcast before, but I'm just trying to give you some context. If you're new here, like just try it out, just do it, you know. Try your best. Like, what the fuck do you think I'm doing? I'm trying my fucking best. And leaving, like, if you leave somebody, it doesn't erase the effort you gave. It's like people think that when you're trying, like people think that when a woman is trying to leave, it's because she's not trying. Trust me, women try. We fucking try. We don't want to fail because we don't want to face you, motherfuckers. You guys are so annoying. You guys talk so much shit. We want to make it work, trust me. But when we're finally ready to leave, it's because we're fucking tired. Like, I didn't leave my last relationship because it was too hard. I was down for the ride. I left because that relationship shouldn't require me to lose myself and lose my interests and have me crying and having eye bags that which by the way, I developed eye bags after the relationship. I never used to have fucking eye bags. I have hollow eye bags now, and I fucking know it's from crying all the time. And I was crying because I knew the relationship was on its way out. I really was, you know? And I was, I should have like left a long time ago, but that societal pressure, even though I'm a modern girl and I'm a strong girl, I just couldn't accept failure because I didn't want to face the world like fuck these motherfuckers won. You know? But at a point I was like, fuck this shit, bro. I don't fucking want this. This is this is not how it's supposed to be. I shouldn't be losing myself. I don't feel safe. I'm on edge. I have anxiety. And I bet a lot of you feel like that right now or have felt like that. Why should we be in that? Like somehow, like leaving an unhealthy marriage or a relationship is judged way more harshly than staying in one. When you stay in one, it's like, goddamn, they're just they keep it in the house, keep it in the rug, don't tell anybody, just suffer in silence. But when you leave and you're more loud about leaving because you're free, now you're getting shunned for it. Like, what did you do? Why did he cheat on you? Why couldn't you keep him? It always just turns into the woman's fault for some reason. And like, and that's why women stay. And I can relate. Like, I my my situation was just mostly cheating, and like that to me is fucking disrespectful and lying and shit like that. But I know there's relationships where people are being abused, you know? And people are scared to leave because of the family pressure, the societal pressure. They don't want to be judged harshly more than men, because no matter what, they're gonna be judged harshly. They have kids. The man also fucking has those same kids. He put his he put his penis in the girl. The kids are equally theirs, but for some reason, oh do Joakadima, that's too she she has she's a mom. The dad, oh yeah, yeah, he had kids. Who cares? The fuck? Like, the what will people say? Low cookie can again is like engraved in a woman's head, bro. Like whole life, whole life, you have to fucking hear it. And you always get told marriage has problems. It's okay. We fight, me and your dad fight. Yeah, I don't want that. I don't want that. And then you're just expected to tolerate behavior for the sake of an appearance for the kava. And divorce gets treated like shame instead of a good decision, or maybe you she saved her own life. Like maybe she was gonna die in that relationship.

The Double Standard For Aging

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Maybe she was going to lose herself and her hair, her everything, you know, and it's like they don't care about that. It's just a stamp, just a fucking stamp that they care about. And it's 2026, about to be 2027 in like six months. Same shit. Like our community will tell a woman to tolerate almost anything before telling her it's okay to get divorced or or get out of a relationship. And then if she has multiple relationships because she's trying to figure something out, she's a whore. Fuck, why how why are you trying to figure things out? You're supposed to just stick with a person and that's it, right? It's crazy to me. Like, I don't know. I don't believe my relationship ending meant I failed, even though I felt like that in the time. Like staying somewhere unhealthy just so people could continue saying I'm with somebody would have been the real failure because then I'm trying to be somebody I'm not. I'm trying to feed into this weird perception people want, this weird, this weird like expectation people have of me. And these people don't pay your fucking bills, they don't give a shit. They're not gonna pay for your therapy. They want they don't want you to do better than them anyways. And I think that's failure, you know. I think it's failure trying to stay in something just because you care about what people are gonna say. Not not leaving a marriage or leaving a relationship. That's not failure. And then I just I just feel like people think your life is just over, you know, when it comes to marriage and divorce and failed engagements and failed relationships. Like after I finally got my ass up and you know, stopped crying myself a river and stopped feeling sorry for myself, I'm doing better than ever. And and and you notice that with girls. Like, once a girl gets out of a breakup, she looks prettier, her hair's done, her nails are done, she's traveling, she's going out with friends, like she has a glow that you've never seen before. And that should prove to you that the man sucked the life out of her. That's why. Oh, like there's all these memes like, oh, if you break up with a girl today, she'll be on a yacht tomorrow. Yes, she should be. You fucking didn't take her on a yacht, she's gonna go on a fucking yacht. She sacrificed her yacht, millionaire friends, because she wanted to fucking make your ugly ass happy and make you feel secure. And now she's on a yacht. And that people get mad that a girl's celebrating and she's all like like happy that she got divorced. Fuck yeah. She dogged the motherfucking devil. Girl, go laugh, have a good time, you know. There they start relaunching a career. Like me, I started my podcast again. I built a live talk show that I'm gonna do tonight on kick. And I'm starting from scratch. Like, this is something that I'm starting new after having half a million followers across all my all my platforms. This is new, but I'm like, fuck it. What do I got to lose? I'm auditioning for acting roles, which I'm gonna do after this podcast. I'm gonna send in a self-tape. I just booked a beauty campaign. I'm in talks to do my other campaign. Like, what once that momentum comes back, no one can stop that shit, bro. And I'm starting to get my master's in one of my behavior therapy trainings. I'm like doing online courses. Like I did four hours of it yesterday. I also am starting to want to learn about real estate, then I do that on the side. I'm create I just got viral the other day creating viral content. Like, I I it's like you become a superhero all of a sudden when you get out of a shitty relationship. And women are superheroes. And if there's men listening to this too, like I'm not trying to, I can only speak from a woman's experience. So if you're also going through this, like I hope it relates to you as well. I had a sip of water, but you know, I I mean in some aspects they may and some may not, but I can only speak as a woman, right? Right. But starting a new career at in your 30s, in your 40s is not embarrassing. And I don't know why our culture just loves like putting people down when they start something new. Like if they if we don't start something new now, when are we gonna start it? Jodolosi Marke, like when we die in our afterlife? Like this is the time to try everything. And if something fails, okay, you tried it, on to the next. Okay, you tried it, on to the next. Like, people are so scared to try something new. They want to be complacent, they want to stay at the nine to five and die there because it's a guaranteed check. Good. If that's the life you want, fuck yeah, you know, and and I don't knock you for it. You have a job, you have a roof over your head, fuck yeah. But some people don't want to be ordinary, they want to be extraordinary, and to be extraordinary, you have to fail a few times. And I have motherfucking AD ADHD, I want to do everything, and I'm gonna try to do everything, you know, and it's I don't know, staying stuck because I'm scared of what people think is embarrassing to me. Like, like I get talk shit to all the time when I'm on TikTok live because people can gift you on there. And when I used to be with my significant other, we used to do it as a team, like he used to be my motivation, and I used to rack in three to five thousand dollars a week, sometimes every two weeks. Like there was a month that I made ten thousand dollars, but it's because he was my he was supporting me at the time, and like I had like a team with me and all this kind of stuff, and like sitting on your ass because you have a good personality and people like you, or people don't like you, but they're still watching you and gifting you. Like, who the fuck doesn't want to make free $10,000 instead of sitting sitting in an office for fucking eight hours? Even if you make $35 an hour, you're not making that shit, bro. Even if you're making $50 an hour, you know what I mean? Like, it's crazy to me that people want to knock you and embarrass you because they can't sit on their ass and make money. They can't go out there and start a new career. Nobody would give them a loan because they're shitty people to start a business. You know what I'm trying to say? It's actually sad that people try to put people down when they're in their 30s starting something new. Like, I'm so much smarter now in my 30s than I was in my 20s. I wish I knew all the shit that I knew when I was 20 that I that I know now, because I'd be very, very much more successful financially, you know? And of course I'm gonna want to start new things now, and of course you're gonna want to start new things now because you made your mistakes, and now you're like, okay, I can learn from these. And I just think it's embarrassing of people to embarrass others for wanting to do better and wanting to try things. Like, if I I don't know, if I'm trying new things, it doesn't mean I failed. It means like I'm giving myself more than one way to build stability. And I know some of these dumbasses don't know that back in the day it used to be like you have to have five streams of income to be rich, at least five or comfortable. Now, because life is so much more expensive, you need seven streams of income almost. Unless you have like one big crazy business. But look at all these billionaires. They have makeup lines, clothing lines, they have investments, they have fucking tech, they have apps, they have everything. They're fucking billionaires. They have you know what I'm trying to say? So you're mad at the average person who's only making averagely $25 to $35 an hour. You're mad at them for wanting to create more streams of income? What the fuck? Like that's crazy to me. I just don't understand how people are that dumb. Like, I have two, like, what, 261,000 followers on Instagram and like 100,000 there, 50,000 there, whatever, whatever, right? And I'm still trying to figure out my finances because I want more. You know, I want stability. I know social media is not gonna be here forever, especially being a Punjabi influencer. How long will I last as a Punjabi influencer? Until the next hot shit comes around, until I get married off, or whatever, whatever. Shit's not gonna last forever. Maybe. Not really. People start calling me old already in my fucking 30s. You know what I'm trying to say? It's entertainment at the end of the day, right? So what do I gotta do? I gotta maximize all my degree. I gotta maximize other avenues. I gotta think of sales. Sales is where you make the most fucking expense, like most money. You know what I'm trying to say? And success may be looking at my followers, and people see me in a movie, people see me in music videos, they see me in all these campaigns, but that's not success to me yet. You know? It's like what looks, what looks like success to them or failure to them, nobody knows what you're doing privately, you know, because success to you is much different. Being successful online, like I said in my last podcast, doesn't mean you must refuse other opportunities to prove something. Like, okay, I'm making $10,000 a month on TikTok, okay? So I should just not do anything else? Shouldn't I fucking make $20,000, $30,000? Like, you know what I mean? Somewhere else? Should I not? Like, it's really weird. People are so dead end thinking, especially in our society. Like, so like backwards and like they just need to travel and read more. I don't, I don't know. Maybe I'm just, I just want more for myself. And I and I don't think there's anything wrong for that. And it's not like, and and I don't even consider this like starting over. I mean, maybe like on kick and stuff. It's just I'm just using what I've learned to maximize my potential with all the time that I have. You know, I'm starting with experience, and I think that's really important. And even the biggest billionaires and millionaires, a lot of them didn't become that until 40. So many people haven't become successful until 40, and you hear that all the time, right? And my favorite quote is

Why “Staying Married” Gets Praise

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for me, and a lot of people have different quotes, right, that are important to them, and that kind of shows you where they are in their career or in life. You're either a somebody or you're a nobody. And I want to be a somebody, I don't want to be a nobody. And in order to be a somebody, you gotta take a lot of shit and do a lot of shit. You know what I mean? Oh man, like the things that I'm telling you, like to go back to the things that I recognize now at the age that I am, like, I recognize manipulation faster. I can tell when I'm somebody's trying to manipulate me and fuck with me. And and and like they're fucking with my intelligence. And that's what pisses me off when somebody's lying and tries to manipulate me. It's like, oh, now you're insulting me. Like, I'm too smart for this. I care less about being liked. I used to want to be liked all the time. Like, why don't they like me? Why don't they like me? Now I don't give a flying fuck. Don't like me. Do we like everybody? No. We don't like everybody. Sometimes there's somebody that everybody likes, and don't then sometimes you're just like, I can't put my finger on it. I don't like something about that person. We do it. So why can't people do it to us? You know? I will never tolerate disrespect from somebody again. I'll never be a yes, yes. Person again, you know, just I'm gonna be honest. Hey, I I I can't I can't go right now, dude. I have shit to do. You know what I mean? Uh I choose my friends more carefully. Like lately, like one of my friends got mad at me for some fucking stupid childish shit. I apologize to her, but then I just kind of like was in my head. I'm like, okay, noted, you're childish. And and you're and you're territorial, and I don't have time for that. Like, I'm such a nice person, dude. I get people free tickets, take them to free concerts, I put them on, I introduce them to fucking really cool people, and you're gonna get mad at me because I didn't invite somebody somewhere. I don't have time for that shit, dude. Like, I don't know, peace is so much more valuable to me. I don't have like I know that online, my online personality is crazy, but once the camera turns off, dude, I don't have that drama in my life. I don't live down the street from these fucking food people. I love my mom, I love my brother, I love my friends. Everything turns off and I live in peace. And I'm never afraid to change direction either. Like, I take criticism very well. Unless when it's like somebody calling me a whore or something like that, when I haven't had sex in six months, like that kind of picks pisses me off a little bit because I'm like, I'm not even having sex. Like, what are you talking about? But aside from that, just being funny, but like I'm still trying to decide what success means to me. I don't know if it's like an eldest daughter syndrome where things are just never enough, you've never done enough, there's always more you need to do, you gotta help this person, that person. Like, I don't know what success looks like to me at all right now. Um would million dollars make me happy? Possibly for for how long until I want to do something else, and I want to do something else. And sometimes that's just how people are. Like, my 20s were about proving myself, and I feel like my 30s are about choosing myself. You know what I mean? Wow, that was really good. That was really good. Let me say it again. My 20s were about proving myself, my 30s are about choosing myself. I need to put that on a canvas. That was really good. Good job, Jyoti. I but but honestly, but in all honesty, if you're listening to that, remember that if you're in your 30s, or even if you're in your 20s listening to this, don't worry about shit. You have so much time. Don't let these people make you think you don't have any time. It's just we have everything on social media nowadays, so it looks like we're running out of time. We're not, you're not. Take your time, live, live, live, live. Take in all the experiences, cry over the breakup. It's all good. It just gets worse. No, I'm just kidding, no, I'm just kidding. You get smarter, you get smarter, I promise you. I don't know. Whether you're if you're listening to this, whether you're divorced, you've never been married, you're dating, single by choice, changing careers, or going back to school, even maybe, right? School starting, starting a business, or even just rebuilding your life brick by brick, dude. You are not behind, you're not expired. Your relationship status is not a report card on your womanhood, okay? It's not repeat after me. You are not behind. You are not expired. Your relationship is not a report card on your womanhood. No one can put that on you, and you have to be nice to yourself, you have to talk nicely to yourself. Stop feeding into this bullshit. Oh, your eggs are gonna run out. You know what? I can freeze my fucking eggs, I can go get a fucking surrogate, or maybe I don't want kids. None of your fucking business. That's what you tell them. None of your fucking business. Unless you're gonna give me a million dollars. Like you're not too old, man. And you're like comparing your real life to somebody's edited timeline. Do we really know what's behind that family portrait of them in their shitty ass reindeer outfits are so fucking ugly and they look so happy and you wanna punch them in their face? Maybe like 2% of them are happy. But are they though? Does he know she has an affair going on with her coworker? Does she know he's actually gay? We don't know that. We don't know that, okay? So stop comparing yourself to these people that we don't know nothing about. And yes, maybe in our real lives we might see people where like, hey, you know, their little relationship is good because there are healthy relationships. I I have a friend group that has a really good healthy relationship and they fight, they bicker, and sometimes I'm like, that's what the fuck you guys are fighting about. But don't be bitter with those people. Invite your blessings in, speak things out loud, write them down. You have to be kind to yourself because if you're not kind to yourself, then how are others supposed to be kind to you? You know, and how are you gonna make room for better things in your life? And I'm gonna leave here with this, okay? I tried the relationship thing, right? I tried the families meeting each other, the fucking rings and the talking about kids and freezing my life for somebody and trying to feel make somebody feel comfortable. I tried to build somebody up. I tried to fit in that box that people want me to fit in because I wanted them to be like, look, look, guys, I can get married. Look, look, look, look, I am worthy. I was I was loud and I I I was opinionated, but look, look, look, somebody wanted to marry me. You know, like what the fuck? Why am I being a pick me bitch? Why are you being a pick me bitch, girl? Fuck them. Fuck them. And I'm saying it to you, yes, you, whoever's listening, fuck them. I was trying to be a pick me bitch. And no, that's not who you are, and that's not who I am. You know, after a divorce, after a failed relationship, after maybe even losing somebody, even from who's gone from this world, you know, you just you're still allowed to fall in love, you're still allowed to build a career, you can still change your mind, you're allowed to travel, you're allowed to make money, you're allowed to fail, you can succeed, and you can begin over and over and over again. Like Aliyah said, because I'm a millennial, just yourself off and try again. No, for real though. Just yourself off and try again, dude. Like, who cares? Who cares? Don't let these people put you in a box. Just because your marriage ended, your life didn't end, just because your relationship ended doesn't mean your life ended. Just because you're older now doesn't mean you sh you're dying, you're gonna be dead. Doesn't fucking matter. Changing your career doesn't mean your first dream failed. Starting over doesn't mean you're behind. And I'm talking to myself, I'm I'm talking to myself as well. Like I've said these things to myself, so I'm saying them to you. And you some people may be like, Wow, oh, what it why are you preaching? Well, if you made it this far, you like that I'm preaching, but I just speak from experience, right? This is Jy K uncut for a reason. It's about Jyotike's experience. This is about Jyotike's failures, her lessons, her choices, and everything. I speak from experience. I'm not fucking trying to be a motivational speaker who just fucking makes shit up out of my ass and like downloads Claude or whatever and starts a fucking podcast or like just grabs a mic and just like you know, I can talk about hot topics, and I do. I do that on my Instagram, I do that on my TikTok, I do that on Kick. Like, yeah, I talk about all that shit too, but that's not what my podcast, at least this season, is for. This season is about my experiences, and I always try my best to share my experiences on my podcast because you can at least secretly listen to me. You may not support me out loud, or you may not, you know, maybe you feel like you're alone. And I just want to be that friend, that sister, that homie that can tell you my experience, and you can take what you want from it and take what you don't want from it. You know what I mean? But let me say this, okay? And I see a lot of foods on the internet that try to be like, yeah, I who the fuck let me uh sorry. I'm like, I was about to finish this podcast, but I have to talk about this. That's how you know this shit is real and not scripted. I was on this fucking, I was on the internet, and I this fucking food doof popped up on my shit. His name is like Hazi or something from the UK. Fucking biggest Laden fucking chopra pudu banda, like wannabe Andrew Tate. Like he one of the things one of all his videos are shit and just like he hates women. I he's gay. You guys, all these guys are gay. He talks about, oh, I don't like how women that are divorced or in their 30s are telling other women not to get married. Like, okay, be happy in your miserable life and buy your Louis Vuittons, but don't stop them from it. No, motherfucker. Nobody's stopping them from anything. You guys are stopping the women. You guys are so shitty. People like you, you fuck, you guys have no morals,

When Trying Hard Still Hurts

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you guys have no fucking you you have all these standards for women and you don't even follow any standards at all. You don't even fit the standards women have. They have to like compromise because they want to fill this void or they want to they feel sorry for you and you're like a build-a bear fucking project. That's literally what you are. Like we women are not getting married right now or having kids because there's a male epidemic, not because single women are preaching, don't get married. Single women are telling them that it's okay to be single because they're in the same boat, dumbfuck. And there's even married women that are preaching and saying, Don't do it. I'm fucking miserable. And there's some married women that are like, I'm actually really happy, but you live your life, girl. Like, the fuck? Like these guys are so stupid and so close-minded. Like nobody's telling you not to get married. We're just saying it's okay not to do it. Don't force yourself. We're basically saying everything that I said on this 30-minute podcast that your life is not fucking over if you don't follow that stupid trail. Some people end up dead and murdered because they decided to stay in a shitty ass marriage. Okay? Let that be an example of why women say it's okay to leave. So don't listen to these fucking male foot dudes with small dicks, okay? Listen to women that have had experiences, have been through it. Like, shut the fuck up. Okay, now that I've got that out of my system, okay? Because there's there won't be an there won't be a last hazzy or whatever the fuck, hazy motherfucker. There's always gonna be more of these people, and I want you to hear this. They are miserable. They they are miserable people who hate women and hate themselves. Okay. With that being said, marriage is not an end-all be-all. Divorce is not the end either. And just like you, and just like her and him, I am still becoming, and I'm definitely not dead, okay? And neither are you. We are alive. Don't let these fuckers kill that dream inside of you and kill that passion and love inside you, okay? Because I know they will try to do that. They try to do that to me always, every day of my life. And I fight for myself and for you. So you can see all the hate that I get, and I still rise above it. Okay. And I'm gonna finish with this and and ask yourself this, okay? Would you rather be happily single and building your life or miserably married just so society can call you successful? Think about that for a second. Okay, we'll leave it with that. I love you. And if you're happily married and stuck through this, I love you too. And I'm so happy you're happily married. I'm just trying to speak to my sisters and brothers who maybe feel a little out of place and feel like time is running out. Again, this is Jotikiya and Cut. Thank you for listening. We're on Apple, Spotify, Buzz Sprout, everything. Google me, love you. Hey, and let me know you listen to this, okay? I love when you guys tell me you're listening to it because it doesn't make me feel like I'm just talking to myself.

unknown 34:59

Okay.

SPEAKER_00 34:59

Okay, bye. Love you.